I am uncomfortable with the idea of basing our morals and values and restricting our actions solely on "That's what God wants" or "God told us that's bad" or "Jesus said so." When I hear parents discipline their kids with, "Don't bite your sister, because it makes Jesus sad," I think, Huh? How about, "It makes your sister sad"? or "It hurts your sister"? Why appeal to an unknown, unseen entity for a 5 year old, who can barely understand abstract concepts? I do good and avoid bad to make the world a better place, and to help people be happy, and to help my family. What's wrong with that? If it helps to have an outside, powerful, all-knowing God to help direct your actions and help find peace, fine, do it. But I can find direction and peace without one, too.
Some religious people find it hard to comprehend that atheists and secularists have morals and values and would still behave well if, say, the law enforcement system broke down. I find that insulting. God is not the only reason to be nice, nor is God the only thing to believe in. Yes, some people do lose God and go a little crazy for a while. But I haven’t gone crazy, my marriage hasn’t fallen apart (I’d say it’s stronger than ever), and I haven’t been in the depths of despair wondering if life has no meaning. Yeah, maybe right now, my beliefs are slightly more defined by what I don’t believe than what I do, but it’s the stage of a process I’m in. And I’m okay with that.